A Message from Kerry and her Angels, July 12, 2007

Scenario: Someone is hurting you repeatedly. Intentionally or unintentionally they continue to cause you harm. You confront this person and tell them that what they are doing is hurting you, you ask them to stop and you let them know what they are doing is not okay with you. They do not respond after you have informed them, with any remorse or admission of wrong doing on their part. So there is no resolve and you are left to decide what to do.

You decide to walk away. Now, what if the people who are hurting you are members of your family? Your spouse, your child, or your parents? You can physically separate from or divorce your spouse if you have reached a point of irreconcilable differences beyond the point of no return, and you can set boundaries and issue consequences to correct the behavior of an out of control child but what do you do if the problem is with your parents and you are grown and on your own?

If someone is hurting you and you have asked them to stop and they continue to hurt you, love yourself enough to get away from them!

We love our parents! No matter what they may do or have done, it is easy to forgive them because they are our parents and we love them! But if they continue to cause you harm and refuse to cease their hurtful behavior and cannot treat you with the love and respect that you deserve then it may be in your best interest to set your boundaries and respect yourself enough to walk away.

Dr. David Viscott (deceased author, psychiatrist and radio/television personality) stated, "If someone is hurting you and you have asked them to stop and they continue to hurt you, love yourself enough to get away from them!" These words gave me peace because I had walked away from my Mother years ago because our relationship was not a positive one. As much as I loved my mother I reached a time in my life where I had to accept that we were probably never going to have the relationship I would have liked to have had with her and it was in my best interest to "get away from her". She wasn't responding to love and truth and she wasn't going to change.

When she crossed over I was at peace. I had no regret because I had spoken my peace and given her the opportunity to respond and make amends. She simply was not able to do so. In the car, on the way to her funeral, I felt such a relief because I knew she could never hurt me again! And I was at peace because in all of her acts against me I never once retaliated or wished her any harm. I had learned to love her unconditionally.