Dr. Dan Ardebili is the author of "The Little Book of Secrets, How to Attract the Person of Your Dreams & Keep Them!". What secrets and insights does Dr. Dan have on making relationships work? We connected with the hip guy and got him to share some of his secrets behind great relationships.

1. How would you define a relationship?

If you break down the word Re-la-tion-ship: Taking a journey on a ship with your partner and learning how to relate to one another. It is a journey to relate or learn from each other and from everything around you. You are taking this life journey together, creating magic moments and working through the hard or tough times, and most importantly growing stronger together. It is like you are consciousnesses merging to become one - not just getting along - which is what I see a lot of couples doing today.

They learn about relationships from their parents and with the divorce rate at what it is today that is not a good thing. They also learn from what they see on TV or in the movies, but unfortunately that is not real. This type of learning is make believe and they go there whole life looking for something that does not exist. That is why there is so much infidelity. They are trying to find this everlasting so-called love, but have mistaken lust for love - which are two different things. So a relationship is the path where 2 consciousnesses merge to become one. It is the journey on the ship to relate to each other.

2. In your book "The Little Book of Secrets, How to Attract the Person of Your Dreams & Keep Them!", you shared 21 interesting secrets. Where and how did you discover these secrets yourself?

When I was in my early twenties I was lost. I was in really bad relationships and always angry. I didn’t know I had a choice, I thought that was just how life was. I finally hit bottom one day and knew something had to change. I was at my parent’s house visiting and looking through my old things, searching for something. I came across a set of Tony Robbins Cassette tapes. Remember when we used those things? I asked my mother, “Whose tapes were these?” She had told me that she had bought them 2 years ago off a late night informational. So I had asked her if I could listen to them since at the time I was driving a lot for work and figured it would be a good use of time.

I think it is important to add, that at this point of my life I had never read a book on self-help, metaphysics, or anything like that. I probably would have thought that metaphysics was the study of Metal or something like that. Now, I didn’t know what to expect from listening to these tapes, but when I listened to the first tape it changed my life instantly! Like as fast as the snap of the fingers! It was like I had changed instantly! I went from an angry guy in bad relationships to a happy guy with a beautiful wife and 2 beautiful children and one on the way. So I had learned these secrets from my own life experiences and then from traveling the world learning from self-help experts to Indian Gurus.

Commitment is so important, not just in a relationship but in so many aspects of life.

I did not do this because I wanted knowledge or a title, but because I wanted to grow in my own life - for myself and for my family. This is why I wrote “The Little Book of Secrets”. Because it took me over 10 years and hundreds of thousands of dollars to learn them and most importantly practice them in my own life. This is why I have put them together in one place “The Little Book of secrets, How to Attract the Person of Your Dreams and Keep Them!” is for everyone , so that they wont have to travel the world, spend hundreds of thousands of dollars, or take the next 10+ years to gather them for themselves.

3. Which is the most important secret in your opinion?

That is a very hard question to answer. They are all important. It would be like asking someone if they only had one choice which would they keep, their Lungs or their Heart? Just like any vital organ they are all important to live. It is a balance of them all.

All the secrets are vital. You cannot create a strong relationship without them all. Now if someone was only going to read one of the secrets, I would say it should be commitment! Because it all starts with commitment and it ends with commitment, or should I say re-begins with it. Commitment is so important, not just in a relationship but in so many aspects of life. The Western world has not learned this, and a lot of the eastern world has forgotten it. So make sure to learn about commitment and most importantly practice and live it in your own life now.