Have you ever experienced a situation that made you so angry that it ended up ruining your whole day or even your entire week? Have you experienced a sense of loss that permeated all other areas of your life? Have you ever felt that your emotions tend to get the better of you, making it hard for you to make good decisions that would benefit yourself and others?
Are emotions bad? No! Emotions are not only natural, but may even be necessary as they inform us about our unfulfilled needs. When you are feeling angry, perhaps you feel that you have been unfairly treated by someone else. Hence, acting upon this anger in a constructive manner can help you become more assertive with others and set healthy boundaries.
However, many of us get stuck when emotions become excessive, and instead of letting emotions guide us in taking positive steps to improve ourselves or the situation, they become obstacles to our spiritual growth. We become disconnected with our inner wisdom, make choices that increase our own misery and even that of others, and our energy gets drained by the resultant never-ending cycle of negative thoughts and beliefs about ourselves and the world.
Getting to the root of our problems
Often, people come to therapy wanting to know how they can solve their problems. Yet, the truth is, staying in a state of anger, depression, guilt, etc would not enable anyone to resolve their problems in a positive way. When the mind is confused and the heart is not peaceful, one will not be able to analyse the situation accurately or make the right move. Wanting to solve the problem is like trying to get rid of the weed by cutting it with a shear. As the roots are still growing, the weed will reappear after sometime. The best and most permanent way of solving the problem is by getting to the root of it - which is the negative beliefs and emotions.
So how do we clear those negative beliefs and emotions? There are MANY methods of doing this, and one method is by using Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT for short, developed in US by Gary Craig, and fast growing in popularity around the world because:
